I might as well quit gaming...

[|DFA|Lemming]

This is it... I've got only 5 more days until my girl slaps a heavy *** ball and chain on my ankle. I'm getting married on Saturday Someone please save me!!!!!!!! I think I'll take this opportunity to list all of things that used to be but are no more.

1. No more upgrading my computer to keep up with the demands of video games.
2. No more gaming unless she lets me (that's never).
3. No more buying that brand new uber-distance Calloway Driver.
4. No more lounging around all day watching SportsCenter (enter "the STYLE network").
5. No more stopping by at the bar after work for a couple of beers.
6. No more taking vacation to go to Vegas with my friends.
7. No more spending all day Saturday golfing and drinking at the 19th hole.
8. No more taking vacation to attend one of Demon's LAN parties
9. No more cheesecake, ice cream, chocolate chip cookies, bacon strips and/or macaroni and cheese for dinner.
10. No more sleeping in on Saturday when there is so much stuff to work on outside.

There's a lot more but I am getting a little too depressed to continue. I'm getting married this Saturday and forfeiting my freedom. This September, I'm turning 30. What a great year I'm having. And the best part is it doesn't matter what I write, I'll bet one of you says "Congratulations".

[{OF}Blong]

lol umm im married and I still game (though it is becoming less) I still upgrade my computer though not that often. Never watch sports center and I dont know what a calloway driver is. I stop once in a great year for a beer with buddies at a bar but like I said thats maybe 1x a year as well I dont drink much anyways. One of my friends is married and he still goes golfing and drinking every thursday. My wife attends lan parties with me. #9 whats stopping all that????? #10 you can still sleep in until you have kids then all that goes downhill. so in conclusion

You dont have to stop what you do just limit it . Oh and congratulations haha.

[Hakko]

MY wife once went with me to Tennesse for a LAN party. She went shopping and site seeing and I went to the party. Everyone was happy.

She lets me play every evening when I've eaten dinner and talked for awhile.

I typically don't upgrade except every 4 to 5 years.

I enjoy being married. Sure I play less. But sex whenever I want is a great trade off.

[Harbinger]

If that all means so much to you explain to me why exactly are you getting married? You know it's a choice, right? You BOTH have to say I do. Of course if she's pregnant that changes things.

Oh, yeah don't take my advice, I'm divorced and SO happy we didn't have kids. I'll let Blong just keep making them :P

[|DFA|Lemming]

Originally Posted by Harbinger

If that all means so much to you explain to me why exactly are you getting married? You know it's a choice, right? You BOTH have to say I do. Of course if she's pregnant that changes things.

Oh, yeah don't take my advice, I'm divorced and SO happy we didn't have kids. I'll let Blong just keep making them :P

Well... I'm not Indian so this isn't an arranged marriage or anything. I'm getting married so I won't go to hell. She's my salvation and she'll take care of me when all those hits of Acid catch up. It's a major sacrifice on my part but I think further down the road, if I'm not divorced, I'll be looking back and be glad I made the right decision.

[Soul]

You don't need to give up anything it is moderation. At first it will seem like it is all give and that you don't get to game much, but in time you will find out how to make it work for you.

I and several other guys I know have diverted our gaming till after our wives/girlfriends go to sleep, then it is on, sure there isn't as much time as before but you can still get some gaming time in. It is also helpful to sit down and explain why it is important to you, you after all have a circle of friends that don't demand anything from you that you have known for some time and want to stay in touch with them. You can't upgrade as much as you want, but again you can find a way to make things work. They just have to last just a bit longer.

I have been gaming since day one of my marriage (and before we met) and I have been happily married for almost 10 years. (no kids tho, that is for blong to deal with). It isn't just that my wife is awesome and is a geek like me (albeit a non-gaming geek ) but she understands I have things I like to do and I in return make sure that I give her ample time.

Find ways to give and then find a way to take.

It is about compromise, you can't have any relationship where you give up everything you like, you will resent the person and it will end up badly. Sounds to me like you need to have a sit down with her and talk about this.

I do still go out to the bars, not as often anymore as the older I get the more of a wimp I am and would rather get some sleep so that perhaps come Friday night I can get some gaming in :P

G/L!

[{OF}Erad]

Ditto on what Soul said.

(We aren't worthy!) Soul, have you also figured out women too? If so, SHARE the info!!!

[|DFA|Lemming]

I know I can make it to a LAN party if there is one in Vegas. My girl LOVES SLOT MACHINES so I'm sure she won't mind trying to find something to do while I game. We definitely need to have a LAN party in Vegas... I'm talking about ALL OF US. You know we'd have a lot of fun. We'd all have great stories to tell if we ever got out of there alive.

[{OF}Flying_Dutchman]

What Soul said.

(triple ditto that is)

[{OF}Malicious Assault]

I'm in agreement with what has been said already. If she wants you to give up everything that is you then you want to give her up. Let her know what you want to do and come to an agreement as to how much to do. That is the whole key to marrage, communication and agreeing to what will make both of you happy. I get my computer time and upgrades and every 4-5 years I get a new Box if I need one. Talking about it and comprimise works worlds with my wife of 23 years.